Loving Others Is Learning to Love Yourself First
Loving always begins with you. You cannot truly love someone else unless you love yourself first. This is why you must always have a fresh start about everything because loving becomes difficult when you have so many emotional and psychological baggages. Forget about childhood melancholies, past hurts, and previous breakups or loss of loved ones. Throw all those spiteful words away however etched they have been in your heart and mind. Start by believing in yourself. Yes, a person dear to you had called you names, calling you monstrous names and you believed them all. Up to this minute, they are stabbing you; but only, because you allow them to. Now, it’s high-time you throw life’s garbage away and start with a new you. Empower yourself with these steps and you’ll be happier.
1. Rekindle in your thoughts the joys and laughter of your last love affair and not its ending. Pamper yourself with things that will make you happy. Buy yourself beautiful things. Do some sweet self-talking and give yourself a “hug.” You deserve all the best things in the world.
2. Scrutinize your existing “isms” or beliefs. Write a journal asking yourself questions like these: “My earliest memory of feeling bad was …”, “My father told me I can’t…,” and so on. By doing so, you can discover what and how your limiting beliefs got stirred up. Decide which are really true, because only by believing in yourself can you start loving yourself and truly love others.
3. Focus on your good qualities. Dwelling on negative things about you can only pull your self-esteem down. Praise yourself regularly. Self-talk daily by reciting affirmations such as “I am a person with value.” “I have a lot to give the world.” The more you say these things, the more you will believe them. Do you really want to be happy for the rest of your life? If yes, then act right away and love yourself now.
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