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People who have low self-esteem have, at some points in their life, been subjected to negative messages from other people, the media, and even themselves. However, positive thoughts from others and from themselves can help them overcome their stubborn shyness and come out as the courageous and confident social beings that they are. The process of overcoming fears of rejection is not as smooth and fast as changing into another set of clothes. Small things such as believing in affirmations can help one break out of that shell and gain some confidence, as long as these phrases or mantras are crafted in the most convincing and positive way. Here are just a few tips on how to craft the effective affirmation to boost your ego.

1)  Use the present tense.

The problem with affirmations in future tenses such as “I will be a friendly person” is that there is still time until you actually become that friendly person. This leads to putting off what should be undertaken in order to be more outgoing and confident. Think “I am a friendly person” and instantly feel how these words affect you and the way you interact with people immediately.

2)  Recite and repeat.

They say that practice makes perfect; this is why mentally or verbally reading your affirmations over and over again can help you feel the power that these words have. Have a ritual such as a morning prayer where you recite your favorite affirmation to help you get through your day. This positive habit works its charm on your self-esteem and can help you gather enough confidence when facing any situation.

3)  Wait.

Though affirmative phrases can help give you the lift and the courage that you need, it takes a lot of time for it to grow on you. Negative messages don’t just change tune overnight, and may take a few weeks or a few months more. However, you won’t be the first one to notice the change though, but the other people who you meet, talk to, and form relationships with can attest to how your consistent belief in affirmative phrases have raised your self-esteem and changed your outlook in life.

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A lot of people race through their own lives looking for that one elusive thing happiness.  However, the faster one goes, the farther happiness seems to get from their hands.  What most people don’t know is that happiness is just around the corner or may have always been beside them from the start.  In today’s society, more and more people are becoming motivated for the wrong reasons and thinking that their happiness is a goal that can be reached after much hard work and suffering.  And when that goal has been reached, well, it’s on to the next bigger, prettier, and harder-to-accomplish goal before they call themselves happy.   Satisfaction may be the key to happiness, but people rarely give in to the feeling and are left scurrying faster and harder until the weariness of the chase creeps in.  What they forget though is that happiness happens when you allow it to, and yes, one can be truly happy in a myriad of ways.

If you truly want to be happy, here are three simple ways to get that warm and fuzzy feeling in your heart

1)  Slow down.

Some peole get a rush of happiness when they feel the wind in their hair, brisk walk through life, and jump over obstacles as in a race.  However, happiness doesn’t just happen when you reach the finish line.  Take time out to feel and experience the people, places, and other things in your life.  Learn how to slow down and let happiness catch up with you in the form of a book, a night out with friends, a quiet afternoon with your pet cat in your lap, or a rainy day indoors with your loved one.  It pays off to take a  break from the race for happiness to seep into your veins.

2)  Enjoy the view.

Wonder why some people still prefer going on cross-country drives instead of hopping onto a plane? They say a vacation is more memorable not because of the pile of rocks waiting for you at the end of the journey, but because of the people, places, and things that you encounter along the way.  The same goes for life and reaching that goal.  Happiness isn’t just attained when you reach the end, but it can also be seen in the twists and turns that you go through to get it.

3)  Be thankful.

Happiness comes to those who are thankful for it and all the other things one can encounter in one’s life.  Instead of building regret and resentment over challenges, be thankful that you have surpassed such and learned a lot from the experience.  Being thankful for what one has keeps one grounded, focused, and more determined to finish his or her fight.

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A little positive thinking can go a long way in boosting your morale.  Affirmations are just one of the many ways in which you can psych yourself up to conquer your fears, insecurities, and anxieties.  These simple statements are the best tools to start your day with or can be used as effective pick-you-ups whenever your determination falters.  However, affirmations are actually very hard to make as you have to consider the effectiveness of each statement.  Even the use of words of “negation” such as can not or will not in affirmations are questioned.  So how does one actually make an effective set of affirmative phrases?

Creating your own phrases filled with positivity

There are many different ways of creating a set of affirmative phrases as  each person knows what works and what doesn’t.  Effectiveness isn’t based  on an affirmation’s popularity or the number of people who swear by it, but by how it worked for one.  Affirmations are tools that should empower the individual, letting him or her get ready to face up to the different challenges of life.  Some people may go for one phrase or mantra that works for all their challenges, while there are others who go the extra mile to identify the different hurdles and device specific affirmations for each.

Effective statements

Affirmations can be more effective if they are geared towards a specific hurdle or objective.  If, for example, you want to address your body image and your feelings towards it, you can stand by the affirmation of loving your own body and feeling comfortable in your own skin.  To boost courage, you can repeat a saying that defines how fear cannot harm you unless you let it.  A simple thank you to the powers that be can also be an affirmation of gratitude for blessings that have come to you.  No matter what hurdle or challenge you might want to overcome, affirmations can help you get your bearings and give you a positive outlook on the task at hand.

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