They say that when a girl gets a drastic haircut, she’s just experienced a life-changing situation or just had a really bad break-up. A few years down the road, that girl is now a woman and she’s getting her hair dyed and cut in a more drastic fashion but for reasons greater than a break-up – a divorce. Women embark on this trip to the salon in their quest to make their exes feel sorry for leaving behind someone as beautiful as them. However, that reasoning does very little to how someone should move on after a divorce. If you’re not keen on getting your locks chopped off to signal change, here are just a few ways in which you can help yourself take a step forward and never look back.
Change in attitude.
Often, many women have been bullied into silence or change by their marriages, discarding their own beliefs and personalities for many reasons. Now that a split is inevitable, it’s time to break out of that hull and change your attitude. Throw caution to the wind in situations that used to make you politely shake your head when you were married. Be more outgoing, more receptive, or more vocal about your feelings. Positive changes in your personality gets you friends and family who you can turn to in these trying times of your divorce.
Bungee jump.
Or, just do something extreme that you wouldn’t normally do if you were still someone else’s wife. Get a thrill out of doing something that you’ve never done before to get that rush of energy in your system. Though it can only give you a temporary high, the fact that you did something that you’ve never done before can also give you the courage to get through any trial, even painful ones such as a divorce.
Do a complete makeover.
Change your hair or get a new wardrobe. Slim down or bulk up. Rearrange the furniture or change the locks in your house. Changing things in your environment and your physical being signify the changes in your life after the divorce. There’s nothing wrong with getting a make-over after a split, but do it to make yourself feel hopeful for moving forward, instead of trying to win over someone from your past.
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Empower Yourself to Make A Change in Your Life
May 21st, 2009
If you have experienced being in a state of apathy at some point in your life, you know how it feels to want to get out of this situation yet you feel helpless in changing your world. You have ideas on how you can improve your circumstances yet you never get to start them because you feel that such tasks need huge steps.
Self-empowerment may be intimidating at first
By taking the step to overcome such a frightening and intimidating situation, you are on your way to self-empowerment. By knowing the right way to do it, your first step will just be the beginning of your commitment to take your life to new boundaries. Once you have made the first step, you will find out that the task is not that overwhelming after all. This realization will help you overcome future inactivity.
Three simple steps to self-empowerment
1. First, you have to understand that you suffer in your current situation because you have uncertainties in making a move. You have to realize this so that you know the value of taking action regardless of how intimidating the situation is.
Once you are ready to take the first step, you have to decide what your first step will be. Analyze your situation and choose the aspect of life that you would like to improve first. Whether it is your health, career, finances, or relationships, decide on a simple action than can help you start the positive change. This doesn’t have to be a big step. Just think of a small action that can get the ball rolling.
2. Once you know what you need to do, you have to motivate yourself to perform the action. Give yourself a little pep talk or some form of motivation to push yourself to make the move.
3. After you have taken the first step, take the succeeding steps so pursue the change that you would like to take place. This may seem intimidating especially if you think that you are still far from your goal. However, you have to keep in mind that you’ll never be closer to your goals if you don’t take the next steps.
Self-empowerment begins with taking the first step
By having the courage to take the first step, you can easily build momentum and continue to improve your situation. By continuing to be proactive, self-empowerment will soon be an effortless undertaking.
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