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Loving always begins with you.  You cannot truly love someone else unless you love yourself first.  This is why you must always have a fresh start about everything because loving becomes difficult when you have so many emotional and psychological baggages.  Forget about childhood melancholies, past hurts, and previous breakups or loss of loved ones.  Throw all those spiteful words away however etched they have been in your heart and mind.  Start by believing in yourself.  Yes, a person dear to you had called you names, calling you monstrous names and you believed them all.  Up to this minute, they are stabbing you; but only, because you allow them to.  Now, it’s high-time you throw life’s garbage away and start with a new you.  Empower yourself with these steps and you’ll be happier.

1.  Rekindle in your thoughts the joys and laughter of your last love affair and not its ending.  Pamper yourself with things that will make you happy.  Buy yourself beautiful things.  Do some sweet self-talking and give yourself a “hug.” You deserve all the best things in the world.

2.  Scrutinize your existing “isms” or beliefs.  Write a journal asking yourself questions like these: “My earliest memory of feeling bad was …”, “My father told me I can’t…,” and so on.  By doing so, you can discover what and how your limiting beliefs got stirred up.  Decide which are really true, because only by believing in yourself can you start loving yourself and truly love others.

3.  Focus on your good qualities.  Dwelling on negative things about you can only pull your self-esteem down.  Praise yourself regularly.  Self-talk daily by reciting affirmations such as “I am a person with value.”  “I have a lot to give the world.” The more you say these things, the more you will believe them.  Do you really want to be happy for the rest of your life? If yes, then act right away and love yourself now.

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A single decision may affect the rest of your life.  Yes, it is always nerve-racking to make decisions, because there is the possibility that from this one big decision, all things could go wrong.  That is why it is normal for people to weigh the pros and cons first, whatever aspect of life that decision may affect, to make sure they make the wisest decision.  But there is always the threat of regret.  Because sometimes, even after studying all the available choices and believing to have arrived at the wisest decision, something just goes wrong.  Fortunately, there is a simple process that can help you make wise decisions in your life.  Ask yourself these questions and you will make better decisions for sure.

1.  What will I gain from this option? Of course, when prompted for decisions, we are challenged with options.  But the ultimate question is, “what will I gain from choosing this option?” Oftentimes, if an option offers more rewards, we tend to take the risk.  Otherwise, we decline that choice.  A tip is to go for that choice which you feel is worth risking.

2.  What do I have to lose from this option?  If there is something to gain, then there is something to lose.  So, ask yourself: “what will I lose if this option doesn’t work out?”  It’s not being pessimistic; it’s more of being on your toes on what huge losses a wrong decision can result into.  What’s the worst thing that could happen if you choose this option? As one author said, “begin with the end in mind.” If choosing a particular option will not bring positive impact in your life, then that is not the right choice for you.  However, if you believe that choosing this option will be a better choice, then by all means, go for it.

There is never a guaranteed right decision, but save yourself from the woes of wrong decision-making.  Be objective when weighing options, follow your intuition, and do the best you can.

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