They say that when a girl gets a drastic haircut, she’s just experienced a life-changing situation or just had a really bad break-up. A few years down the road, that girl is now a woman and she’s getting her hair dyed and cut in a more drastic fashion but for reasons greater than a break-up – a divorce. Women embark on this trip to the salon in their quest to make their exes feel sorry for leaving behind someone as beautiful as them. However, that reasoning does very little to how someone should move on after a divorce. If you’re not keen on getting your locks chopped off to signal change, here are just a few ways in which you can help yourself take a step forward and never look back.
Change in attitude.
Often, many women have been bullied into silence or change by their marriages, discarding their own beliefs and personalities for many reasons. Now that a split is inevitable, it’s time to break out of that hull and change your attitude. Throw caution to the wind in situations that used to make you politely shake your head when you were married. Be more outgoing, more receptive, or more vocal about your feelings. Positive changes in your personality gets you friends and family who you can turn to in these trying times of your divorce.
Bungee jump.
Or, just do something extreme that you wouldn’t normally do if you were still someone else’s wife. Get a thrill out of doing something that you’ve never done before to get that rush of energy in your system. Though it can only give you a temporary high, the fact that you did something that you’ve never done before can also give you the courage to get through any trial, even painful ones such as a divorce.
Do a complete makeover.
Change your hair or get a new wardrobe. Slim down or bulk up. Rearrange the furniture or change the locks in your house. Changing things in your environment and your physical being signify the changes in your life after the divorce. There’s nothing wrong with getting a make-over after a split, but do it to make yourself feel hopeful for moving forward, instead of trying to win over someone from your past.
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Settling the Bills After Divorce
May 21st, 2009
When a divorce is granted, it doesn’t mean just the dissolution of marital ties with a partner, but also of the other aspects such as emotional, physical, and financial reliance on each other. You may have reverted back to single status, but if you have kids, have been unemployed for some time, and have no credit to your name, it’s going to be a bit different than the first time you gained independence form your parents. So what would your finances be after the divorce? Here’s a short rundown of things you have to take care of to make sure you are financially stable.
Separating yours and your ex’s bills
Once the divorce is final, you have to have time to sit down and look at your finances. You can start by poring through the bills that were jointly charged to you and your ex-spouse. Utilities such as electricity, water, telephone, cable TV, car insurance, and even the mortgage on your house should be scrutinized to put what bills into someone’s name.
Finding ways to support yourself
A divorce or separation usually leaves one or both partners financially exhausted after the legal fees have been paid and alimonies have been settled. For those who have been unemployed for some time during the marriage or who doesn’t have any substantial earnings, it may be hard to look for a sufficiently paying job to support one’s self and the children if he or
she has custody. Establish a credit line so that banks and utility companies will have trust in you, but make sure you have enough resources in order to afford paying for the bills, as well as trying to live within your own means.
Discussing alimony and child support can help
Alimony is the amount to be paid to the other party if he or she has no means of financial support. There are three kinds of alimony, one that is provided for the recipient for the rest of his or her life or until he or she remarries, one that covers only a specific time frame, and the last one is to help the recipient achieve financial stability until a certain time. If child custody is awarded to the party receiving alimony, child support fees may also be added. Child support is separate from alimony.
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